How to Make a Decision

A not-so-definitive guide

Before you decide.

Sit down.

Ideally outside, but definitely away from any electronics.

Get quiet. And then when it feels very quiet, take even more time to get quieter.

Notice what it feels like to be alive. How you have a brain that’s thinking thoughts, and lungs that are breathing air. Consider the muscles and bones of you, allowing you to stay so perfectly still.

Before you even begin to consider your decision, say “thank you.”

To this life, to your life. To your body. To your Creator. To the energies and love and all the tiny choices and decisions that brought you here to begin with.

And then once you’ve said your thanks, bow your head ever so slightly and exhale all the things that make this complicated.

Invite Doubt to exit and smile as he does.

Watch as he holds the door open for Curiosity to enter. Watch as she sits down, unpacks her things, and slips off her shoes.

Cross-legged, she’ll sit across from you and ask you to lay out all the options.

She’ll listen, and your only job is to say everything. To lay it all out before her like puzzle pieces. And she’ll ask questions that both perplex and delight you.

You’ll notice how the asking of Curiosity’s questions feel more like balm than an answer ever could.

You’ll take turns putting pieces together - the parts you already know creating the border of the puzzle.

You may have to hold pieces up - these persistent little questions - and ask yourself if they even belong to this puzzle. If they don’t, set them aside.

Hold up to your heart the most pressing pieces. The best questions. The ones that probably don’t have answers. Press them there to your beating chest and see what happens.

Notice if the soft body of you wraps around the possibility, or recoils. How does it feel? This thing, sandwiched between your palm and your heart? Does it belong to you? Does it belong in you?

Those are the pieces that are yours to find a home for.

Piece them together, rotating them in your fingertips until the edges softly press together.

The picture of clarity you find at the end, will look nothing like you expected. It’s unlikely to be one of the “thises” or “thats” you once held side by side in clammy palms.

It’s likely to be something strange but deeply rooted in you. Something ancestral and new, all at once. It’s likely, that this knowing that Curiosity has helped you discover will surprise you both.

And then Curiosity will excuse herself to make you both some lunch. Just then is when, you’ll hear the knock at the door of your soul and find Trust.

Ready to companion you as you take the risk on your own knowing.

I can’t wait to see you in May’s Seasonal Self gathering. And hopefully again in June for the “Delighting” Mini Retreat.

There is also something tender and long-awaited on the horizon for Fall.

Think: small-group course centered around deep reflection, gentle pacing, and meaningful integration. I’m creating this with Tender Hearts and Highly Sensitive women at the center of it all.

Those joining us for the June mini retreat will be the very first to hear what’s unfolding and will get early access to sign up.